why i started when i did
The kids were finally both in school and my ex had stopped paying maintenance. I remember sitting in my kitchen that morning, staring at the electricity bill and thinking: something's got to give.I'd
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The kids were finally both in school and my ex had stopped paying maintenance. I remember sitting in my kitchen that morning, staring at the electricity bill and thinking: something's got to give.I'd
I remember the first time I explained my job to my mam. She looked worried. Not about the sex work itself, but about my safety. Working in hotels for years taught me more about risk than anyone realiz
Sometimes I think my ceramics studio and my other work have more in common than people might guess. Both require patience. Both demand you understand the texture of time, how it stretches and contract
Right so lemme tell you somethin about workin as an escort in Birmingham versus them tiny towns where everybodys up in your business. Its proper different.Ive been doin this seven years now and Ive wo
Last week I had a client - let's call him Michael - who works in tech management and makes about three times what I do annually. He spent most of our time together telling me how 'liberated' and 'prog
Not all clients are the same, but being a trans woman in this industry means you get really good at reading people fast. There's the fetishists who want me specifically because I'm trans. They're not
Getting around rural Ireland for work isn't like city escorts have it. I've got a system now after three years of trial and error. Mostly error, to be honest.My primary strategy is rental cars. Not my
Some days this job feels like a geography lesson. Dundalk sits right on the border between the Republic and Northern Ireland, which means my work has these weird little legal quirks that most people n
Twelve-hour shifts will break anyone. I know this intimately. Not just from nursing, but from the way emotional labour strips you down to raw nerve endings.In the hospital, I was constantly performing
After eight years in this work, you start to see patterns. Not just the obvious stuff about what happens between clients and escorts, but the deeper currents of human need and transaction.Most people
Im sitting here with about 20 minutes before my mum takes the baby so I can do an outcall and honestly this is just how life goes now. Leo is 8 months and hes finally sleeping somewhat predictably whi
There's something about the early morning that feels like stolen time. I'm usually at my ceramics wheel by 6am, clay spinning soft and slow, before the world gets loud. These are the hours that belong
Never thought I'd be here, honestly. Forty-five and rebuilding my entire life after Jimmy decided he wanted a younger model. Typical. But here's the thing about divorce that nobody tells you: it's ter
Every single time I explain my rates, there's this moment where a potential client decides whether I'm 'worth it'. And by 'it', they mean my entire existence as a trans woman in this industry.I've bee
Look, I'm getting real tired of performative feminists who've never spent a day doing actual sex work lecturing the rest of us about our choices. Every single time there's a discourse about sex work,
Right. So everyone's got an opinion about sex work and honestly I'm proper sick of it. My mum still thinks Im gonna wake up one day and get a 'proper job' whatever that means. Like working in an offic
ok so i guess im really doing this. writing about being an escort in limerick. its weird bc i never thought id be here but here i am. first month has been wild and honestly nothing like i expected.big
Look, I've been in service work for years. First hotels, now escorting. People act like these are wildly different worlds but they're not. In both jobs, you're selling something intimate. In hotels, I