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Right. Let me tell you somethin about workin as an escort in tiny towns versus a proper city like Birmingham. Its bloody night and day.In Brum, youve got options. Loads of clients. Different types. Di
Another week, another trash documentary about sex workers where none of us actually got consulted. I'm so bloody tired of being a plot device instead of a person.These shows always hit the same beats.
There's a stillness that comes over Kerry in these winter months. The tourists have gone, the fields are muted greens and browns, and my work shifts into something slower, more deliberate.Winter booki
Sometimes I wonder how my dissertation committee would react if they knew how I funded my research. Not that they'd be shocked. Academia's pretty cutthroat. Funding's funding.My current research on ge
I was having coffee with my mate Sarah last week, and she started going off about how 'degrading' sex work is. Classic middle class performance, right? She's got a corporate job where she sells her em
The studio is cold this morning. Clay dries differently in winter, slower, with these tiny hairline cracks that tell a story about patience. I'm thinking about how sex work and ceramics aren't so diff
Alright listen. Im proper sick of people giving sex workers grief about our jobs. Like Im meant to feel ashamed or something? Nah. This is work. Hard work that most people couldnt handle for five minu
Every month when I transfer money to my parents in Ostrava, I think about how different my life is now. Three years in Zurich and I send almost half my earnings back to Czech Republic. My mother alway
There's a certain type of client you get in Aberdeen that's pure product of the North Sea oil industry. Massive wages, minimal social skills, and an expense account that could sink a small country. I'
The studio is so silent this morning my breath feels loud. I've been up since 5, which is normal for me now. Ceramics demands its own rhythm, and sex work has taught me that time is never just linear.
I've noticed something fascinating about my clients from professional backgrounds. They genuinely believe they understand financial precarity because they've read some Guardian article or watched a do
There's this weird thing that happens when clients realize I'm trans. Some of them get weird. Not all, but enough that I've developed this sixth sense about how interactions are gonna go.Most trans se
Sometimes I look at my kitchen and wonder how many people would see this completely ordinary scene and have no idea. Dishes from the kids' breakfast, a half-folded load of laundry, my work diary open
Weird how my doctoral research in social psychology keeps bleeding into my current work. Not that I planned it this way, but understanding human behaviour is apparently a transferable skill whether yo
Right so everyone thinks Birmingham is some massive sex work paradise and small towns are dead boring. Lemme tell ya something different.Ive worked both. Seven years now and Ive seen bare different sc
Sometimes I think people in Dublin or Cork don't understand how complicated logistics get when you're working outside the main cities. I'm in Sligo, which means every booking requires serious planning
Right. Lets talk about working as an escort in different sized places. Ive done both and honestly? Big cities like Birmingham are the absolute business compared to some tiny village where everyone kno
Two cities. Two sets of regulars. Two different energy landscapes. Some weeks I'm barely keeping up, other weeks I'm sailing smooth like the Tawe River on a quiet morning.Logistics are always the kill