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Funny how life throws ye curveballs. Ten years ago I was a newly divorced mum wondering how I'd make rent, now I'm running my own wee business and making more in a week than I used to in a month.Nobod
The funniest thing about my work isn't the sex. It's watching middle-class men perform what they think masculinity looks like. They come to me with these carefully constructed personas, all hard edges
Some days I look at my bank account and can't help but smile. Not because I'm rolling in cash, but because every euro in there represents something I earned entirely on my own terms. Since separating
Look. Ive done sex work in Birmingham for seven years now and lemme tell you something proper important about how different this is compared to rural areas. City work is a whole different game.In a bi
The light changes first. Always the light. By September in Kerry, everything softens. The harsh summer brightness goes mellow, golden, and the bookings start to shift with it. Summer was constant. Tou
Sometimes I wonder if my dissertation supervisor would laugh or cry if she knew how I fund my research. I'm literally reading Foucault while waiting for a client, thinking about power structures in su
When I first started working in Dublin, I quickly learned that being a Black woman in this industry means something different. Not just different—fundamentally altered. My clients, mostly white Irish
I've been reading escort blogs for ages and honestly? None of them sound like me. Not the posh London ones, not the American sites. So here I am. Writing about what it's actually like working in Clare
Ive been quiet on here for a bit and thats mostly because everything felt like too much? My heads been a bit of a mess lately. Work is fine, clients are good, but something inside me feels like its sl
I keep staring at this workbook my therapist gave me and honestly its just sitting there making me feel guilty. Like somehow Im supposed to magically fix everything by writing down my feelings or trac
People always assume they know what male escorts do. They imagine some fantasy scenario or project their own desires onto the work. But the reality is far more complicated.In the Midlands, where every
Getting work outside my local patch isn't as complicated as people think, but it takes planning. Rural Ireland isn't like Dublin where clients are everywhere. I've got routes I know well now - Galway
People always assume sex work is about sex. It's not. Not really. After eight years, I can tell you it's about something far more complicated: emotional labor and performance.Take last week. I had a c
When I was younger, I thought being sexy was about looking like the girls in magazines. Tight body, no wrinkles, all that nonsense. Now I know sexy is about confidence. About knowing exactly what you
People always want some dramatic story about how I got into sex work. They're disappointed when I say it's basically the same calculation I made working hotel housekeeping. Same shit, different room.I
Right. Gonna tell ya something about sex work geography that most folk dont understand. Ive done this job in tiny villages and now in Birmingham and lemme be straight - big cities are where its actual
Two cities. Two sets of regulars. Two different energy zones. Sometimes I wonder why I do this split between Cardiff and Swansea, then I remember rent doesn't pay itself.The drive is about an hour. So
There's something about the early morning that feels like stolen time. I wake before the kiln starts its low hum, when the light is still grey and soft over Kilkenny. These hours belong only to me.My